Tag: job-search

  • Exit Function

    “What are you thinking about zzzt? We’ve had them on a PIP for a few weeks now and are approaching the end. Have they improved?”

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    I was sitting at home listening to my HR manager talk about zzzt, a member on my team*.* They had been on my performance improvement list for many months, close to a year, but I had only just recently, a few weeks ago, given them a formal PIP.

    A Performance Improvement Plan. HR’s signal to an employee that they are facing termination unless serious changes are made. Almost all the PIPs I have engaged with have ended the relationship between employee and employer. Either because the employee has already given up and gets the message, or because they fail to improve.

    I hoped for the first one, selfishly. I already had no hope they would improve.

    But, zzzt, had chosen to stay and try to show improvement.

    I put my palms to my face and pull my head down. This was not an easy situation to be in. It never has been, especially when you were responsible for hiring them.

    “zzzt has shown initiative to improve, but in my professional opinion, given what we are expecting from them after these years, the growth is not there.”

    This was a startup, with limited resources, and limited slots. When we hire developers, co-ops, juniors and intermediates are usually targeted because from an expense side they are cheaper, but also from a growth prospect side, we can see them grow with the company. They become part of the essence of it. It’s not enough to just be the same developer from a year ago. Especially if there is no criticality of the work you’ve done.

    Unfortunately for zzzt, they hadn’t grown professionally or technically in the two years since I had hired them. I had interns who had joined who are fielding their own full projects and thriving. But zzzt was stuck unable to take lead, technically or from a project side. They were unable to self-direct in a chaotic environment. This was not a medium-large enterprise, where you can hide performance issues. They were visible, and in a health startup, performance is demanded by your own coworkers.

    “But I think they can get there…”

    Kevin, if you had a choice to interview zzzt again, would you rehire them?”

    I thought about our current interview process. We had redone the interview because of this particular hire, to include a code reading assignment. A few years ago, the interview process included a take home assignment, and we hired anyone who would be able to do it. But we found this would only filter for people who can write, and extract code from pre-existing code. This was precisely the problem with zzzt. They lacked the ability to read, understand and comprehend code. And it wasn’t getting better.

    I thought back to the day we made the hire for zzzt. The team was small, and I was excited to finally get another developer to help me out, and work side by side with. But quickly within the first few weeks, I found that I did not hire a peer, but a person to mentor and level up. Concepts like hooks, context, provider, recursion, data structures in a React Codebase, things we saw in the interview, were struggles for zzzt. This took time away from my own ability to execute, time away from delegation, and loss in confidence they could do the job.

    Maybe I gave the wrong expectation as a lead to them? Maybe I wasn’t clear enough? Maybe I didn’t spend enough time with them? Maybe if I gave them a few more weeks.

    I didn’t want to make that call.

    I didn’t want to end their time here. I started it for them, I saw them progress the last two years.

    I didn’t want to think about their personal life, how it would be affected. I remembered the time I was suddenly let go from a startup I gave a few years of my life to. Suddenly, my life shifted, time schedules had a gap, the people I spoke to for 40 hours a week, no longer there anymore. The immediate loss of money. The anxiety of finding another role.

    I’ve given zzzt direct verbal feedback. I’ve sent them an email. I’ve reiterated this feedback over months. I feel like I’ve given all I could to clearly help and provide resources. I have sent them a PIP once before, and yet we are still here. I think, yes, we should move on.”

    I saw where this company was going. I saw the caliber of people it attracted. The eager interns, juniors who dived eagerly into the work and problems, and came with a can-do attitude. The self-sufficient people who I lead, who asked for direction when they did not know where to go. Those who I saw needed their own projects to level up, who clearly spoke of what they wanted and needed. Those who would be the future leaders. This was the culture that this particular startup needed.

    How you work, how you perform, how you learn, is all a function of your self-identity. It’s a part of you. As a manager, I try to fit the work, and teach people based on who they are, to find the translation to the company’s own identity. If I am successful, I can make the match. If not…

    I did not want to change a person to fit the culture. I don’t think I should or could. Nor do I think people should change to fit a culture.

    You are as you are. The company you join is the same.

    You shouldn’t erase your own identity for a dollar. And you can’t act forever.

    Who you are will be valued at some position, in some company. And if you can’t find it, you can always make that company.

    Easier said than done.

    “Kevin, send them a message and let them know you want to chat.”

    I knew this wasn’t going to be easy. Felt like we were ambushing them.

    It had to happen one way or another.

    Or so I tell myself each day.

    When you are on the call let them know that HR will be joining, and call me in. First you’ll say….

  • Your Next Job Will Come Through Someone Vouching for You

    The hard truth about job searching in 2025 that no one wants to admit

    Disclaimer: Job searching is mentally exhausting. If you’re feeling depressed or overwhelmed, please reach out to your support network or professional help. Your value as a human being is not tied to your work.

    90% of job seekers are spending 40 hours weekly on job applications, yet only one person I interviewed landed a job through applying online. The other successful candidates? They relied on referral-based hiring strategies.

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    The Harsh Reality I Discovered After Speaking With 100 Job Seekers

    As a hiring manager who’s designed interview pipelines and reviewed thousands of resumes, I wanted to understand what challenges job seekers face today. So I flipped the script.

    I reached out to over 100 people on LinkedIn who had previously applied to roles I was hiring for. I asked them one simple question

    What challenges are you facing in the current job market?

    The responses were overwhelming and revealed a truth that most career advisors and job search strategy blogs won’t tell you.

    Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

    The Numbers Don’t Lie

    Of the 40 people who responded in depth:

    • Only 10% had found jobs
    • 16 had been searching since January 2025
    • Most were new grads or juniors
    • The average person submitted 300+ online applications
    • Almost all who found jobs did so through referrals
    • Only one person landed a job through the traditional application process

    This clearly shows how modern job searching in 2025 has shifted away from platforms and toward network-based hiring.

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    The Online Application Black Hole

    Every single person described the same painful reality: spending 40+ hours weekly crafting custom resumes and cover letters that disappear into the void. These online applications often fall victim to AI resume screening tools, which means they’re never even seen by a human.

    The brutal truth: applying for jobs online is like shooting in the dark, and you need at least 300 well-targeted attempts to get a few interviews.

    AI Has Made Everything Worse

    With automated hiring systems and AI-driven resume filters, you’d think the process would be more efficient. Instead, it has created a perverse game where candidates optimize their materials for algorithms rather than people.

    As a hiring manager, I now see dozens of AI-generated resumes that are practically indistinguishable from one another. Ironically, this makes the “bad” resumes, with personality and authenticity, stand out.

    Because at the end of the day, an AI is not going to be your manager.

    No matter how advanced technology becomes, one thing stays the same: a human will hire a human.

    The Secret That Actually Works

    Here’s what no one tells you in most career coaching articles:

    Your next job will come through someone vouching for you.

    Every company has internal referral bonuses. There are political, financial, and social incentives for employees to recommend people they know. Companies are essentially professional social groups, and culture fit matters more than candidates realize.

    The people who stood out most in my conversations? Those who asked for a coffee chat. These quick, informal conversations revealed more than any resume could.

    It’s Brutally Hard for Juniors

    Half the people I spoke with had less than a year of experience or were trying to break into the tech industry. These candidates faced the most rejections and spent the most time searching.

    As a hiring manager looking at junior talent, I have no experience, reputation, or portfolio to judge you by. The risk is higher, which is why employee referrals become even more crucial at the entry level.

    I only broke into my first few jobs through referrals and leveraging professional networks.

    What Actually Matters in 2025

    Despite new tools and tech, the core hiring question remains:

    “Do we trust you to do the job?”

    When I open a position, I receive hundreds of applications, but I only forward ten. Anyone who comes recommended through referral-based hiring gets more of my attention because someone’s putting their reputation on the line.

    Candidates who understand the business context—not just the job description—stand out dramatically. Don’t just be a cog in the machine. Understand how the machine works.

    Finding a Job Is Selling Yourself

    And sales in the job market aren’t just about flashy CVS. It’s about understanding your value and packaging it in a way that builds trust.

    Master the skill of selling yourself, and it will pay dividends for the rest of your career.

    Take Care of Your Mental Health

    The universal message I heard: job searching is incredibly stressful.

    Take care of yourself. Lean on your network. Remember, your worth is not tied to your employment status.

    Looking for work is often harder than the job itself. But understanding the real rules of the job market in 2025—that connections matter more than applications—might just save you months of frustration.


    Before submitting your 301st online application, ask yourself:

    Who in my network can vouch for me instead?

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  • Why Referrals Outshine Online Job Applications

    Why Referrals Outshine Online Job Applications

    Disclaimer: Job searching is mentally exhausting. If you’re feeling depressed or overwhelmed, please reach out to your support network or professional help. Your value as a human being is not tied to your work.

    90% of job seekers are spending 40 hours weekly on job applications, yet only one person I interviewed landed a job through applying online. The other successful candidates? They relied on referral-based hiring strategies.

    The Harsh Reality I Discovered After Speaking With 100 Job Seekers

    As a hiring manager who’s designed interview pipelines and reviewed thousands of resumes, I wanted to understand what challenges job seekers face today. So I flipped the script.

    I reached out to over 100 people on LinkedIn who had previously applied to roles I was hiring for. I asked them one simple question

    What challenges are you facing in the current job market?

    The responses were overwhelming and revealed a truth that most career advisors and job search strategy blogs won’t tell you.

    woman in green shirt holding white and black disposable cup
    Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash

    The Numbers Don’t Lie

    Of the 40 people who responded in depth:

    • Only 10% had found jobs
    • 16 had been searching since January 2025
    • Most were new grads or juniors
    • The average person submitted 300+ online applications
    • Almost all who found jobs did so through referrals
    • Only one person landed a job through the traditional application process

    This clearly shows how modern job searching in 2025 has shifted away from platforms and toward network-based hiring.

    The Online Application Black Hole

    Every single person described the same painful reality: spending 40+ hours weekly crafting custom resumes and cover letters that disappear into the void. These online applications often fall victim to AI resume screening tools, which means they’re never even seen by a human.

    The brutal truth: applying for jobs online is like shooting in the dark, and you need at least 300 well-targeted attempts to get a few interviews.

    AI Has Made Everything Worse

    With automated hiring systems and AI-driven resume filters, you’d think the process would be more efficient. Instead, it has created a perverse game where candidates optimize their materials for algorithms rather than people.

    As a hiring manager, I now see dozens of AI-generated resumes that are practically indistinguishable from one another. Ironically, this makes the “bad” resumes, with personality and authenticity, stand out.

    Because at the end of the day, an AI is not going to be your manager.

    No matter how advanced technology becomes, one thing stays the same: a human will hire a human.

    The Secret That Actually Works

    Here’s what no one tells you in most career coaching articles:

    Your next job will come through someone vouching for you.

    Every company has internal referral bonuses. There are political, financial, and social incentives for employees to recommend people they know. Companies are essentially professional social groups, and culture fit matters more than candidates realize.

    The people who stood out most in my conversations? Those who asked for a coffee chat. These quick, informal conversations revealed more than any resume could.

    brown ceramic teacup

    It’s Brutally Hard for Juniors

    Half the people I spoke with had less than a year of experience or were trying to break into the tech industry. These candidates faced the most rejections and spent the most time searching.

    As a hiring manager looking at junior talent, I have no experience, reputation, or portfolio to judge you by. The risk is higher, which is why employee referrals become even more crucial at the entry level.

    I only broke into my first few jobs through referrals and leveraging professional networks.

    What Actually Matters in 2025

    Despite new tools and tech, the core hiring question remains:

    “Do we trust you to do the job?”

    When I open a position, I receive hundreds of applications, but I only forward ten. Anyone who comes recommended through referral-based hiring gets more of my attention because someone’s putting their reputation on the line.

    Candidates who understand the business context—not just the job description—stand out dramatically. Don’t just be a cog in the machine. Understand how the machine works.

    Finding a Job Is Selling Yourself

    And sales in the job market aren’t just about flashy CVS. It’s about understanding your value and packaging it in a way that builds trust.

    Master the skill of selling yourself, and it will pay dividends for the rest of your career.

    Take Care of Your Mental Health

    The universal message I heard: job searching is incredibly stressful.

    Take care of yourself. Lean on your network. Remember, your worth is not tied to your employment status.

    black motorcycle on brown dirt road during daytime
    Photo by Jeremy Bishop on Unsplash

    Looking for work is often harder than the job itself. But understanding the real rules of the job market in 2025—that connections matter more than applications—might just save you months of frustration.


    Before submitting your 301st online application, ask yourself:

    Who in my network can vouch for me instead?

    Best of luck in your job search.

    Take care of yourself—and maybe someone else, too.